[Anti-Aging] Is it really skincare?

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Is it really skincare?Today I had a shrooms trip where I closed my eyes and just sat with my thoughts. I’ve been trying to find the best skincare and I’ve been freaking out about aging after I noticed my first real wrinkle. While some of the stuff on this subreddit is helpful and is really self-care, a lot of what I see is obsessive and sad. Why do I need to care about having perfect skin? If I’m using enough sunscreen to not get skin cancer and I’m moisturizing enough that my skin doesn’t feel tight, isn’t that enough? Shouldn’t that be good?So many women (and men to a lesser extent) look at other women (or men) and think that those other people are doing it better somehow and feeling jealous or resentful. So many women dread aging. We cry about being ugly or becoming less pretty with time. Why? To cater to the male gaze? So we can remain desirable to someone that values our looks so much that we can’t not be aware of it when we’re around them? I think I’d rather be single forever than be with someone who indirectly or directly makes me feel like or tells me I need to look a certain way. Your worth is not dependent on if a man or woman finds you beautiful!I realize how I had looked at my mom and felt dread for what was to come. How I had dared to look at the sweet, smiling, and beautiful person she is and ever feel disgust, shame, or fear. How I had disrespected her like that. I’m just going to grow into looking like my mom and it would be a huge disservice to feel bad or ugly about what I could consider to be a reminder of her. I’m going to look like what my mom looked the whole time I ever knew her and she’ll always be there looking back at me in my reflection, keeping me company.It’s ok to not be youthful and conventionally attractive, for we have our minds that can show us what true beauty there is to be seen and discovered.We really have our priorities backwards. We out here drinking the Kool Aid and letting others dictate what we should like about ourselves. We out here fighting a losing battle. It’s exhausting and I’m done. I’m thankful I’m young and I’m not going to let this go on longer than that. 10 years of obsession was more than enough for my lifetime, thank you.I love you all and I wish you peace.Advice on anti-aging: don’t stress so hard about what you look like, cortisol will be harder on your skin than any sleeping position or any amount of straws you use
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